June 2, 2008 Monday: Down and Up

Well I was wrong.
Lisa did not tell me about going to Tampa until I asked her, "Heard Dow was going to ID. Anybody going?" She didn't ask "Who told you?" Was pretty matter of fact about the trip. Said, "She was along for the visit with Ellie, didn't have to plan, but things were being planned." I assume they will touch base with all the local family, Sue is not coming up from CA. Probably go to Jim Stevens, a long time friend of Dow's who has retired to the Priest River area. Has a fabulous place according to Dow. I didn't ask if Jason was going with them, didn't think of it.

We talked about changing over the time share and my trying to get Jason off ownership. It will cost me some bucks but I guess that is what I get for not having my own checking account and having Dow control all the money. The county clerk in Tennessee said she would create the "quick claim deed" so Dow could sign with a notary and relinquish any marital right to the property. I also asked her to make one for Jason so he could also come off ownership. She said she would this week and send it on to me.

What makes me so angry is that Dow was adamant about not buying the timeshare now he has control of the process. The Tenn. time share folks were astounded the judge ordered the case settled like this. She argued that Dow cannot legally change ownership of the timeshare, real estate law doesn't work that way. Opens up the way to get Jason off the timeshare, so Lisa doesn't have to deal with his passive aggressive behavior(like his dad) in the future. So I am not complaining really, except for the money it is costing me.

Got a call from my lawyer, "I am getting off the plane at Midway. Been away since Friday. I'll call you from the office tomorrow after I read the emails, etc." So nice that he is called me...? So Scott comes back and Dow leaves, now you know why this divorce is in its 19th month and counting.

But on the up side:
I have been working one hour a week for a very small hospice-5 patients. The owner is trying to get Medicare certified through a process by a review board with the initials of JAHCO. Don't ask me what they stand for, Joint Accreditation... The poor woman has been waiting for a year for them to come. She has mortgaged her home, borrowed from everyone to the max.

Well to make a long saga short...JAHCO arrived TODAY at 7 AM! One surveyor who will be with at the office for two days. She went on a joint visit with the CNA today, the RN tomorrow. She wants to talk to the Social Worker and myself and the MD tomorrow. She will attend our IDT meeting where we present all the patients, usually an hour. So it will be interesting. I once took a surveyor out on a visit with me. She was a social worker and "took over the visit!" She had a great time and I passed with flying colors. I remember the patient very well, named Mary in a nursing home. Went home and lived for 3 years on hospice. I know the surveyor today asked "About washing hands and communication with the RN" I also do bereavement and I am sure she will ask about contact and follow-up.

So tomorrow is a new day and I hope to "help my supervisor pass inspection" I helped start a hospice in Blacksburg VA in the late 70's with a good friend Cindy Massie who was a RN. Bernice is just like Cindy but with even more energy! She knows nursing and health care cold and the regs are memorized. I can't imagine us not getting certified. I am bringing fresh fruit and Bernice is bringing string cheese.

So I wish Bernice the very best and it has been a "trip down memory lane." Except this time I have a lot of actual hospice experience under my belt and feel relaxed instead of anxious about the survey visit tomorrow. Then on to work my regular ministry position.

So I feel that I am tying up the loose ends on the divorce and looking to the future, where ever Godde leads me. Did a lot of chores today: washed clothes including blankets, post office, exercise on the treadmill and with weights for 1 hour, sent out about 10 cards for folks, to the bank, recycled plastic-special drop off.

Godde bless us everyone,