Sunday: The Last in October

I thought I would record my "average Sunday" So different now that I am alone, I move at my own schedule, change at a wink of an eye. Happy to be able to choose when/how/what for the first time in my life. I cannot believe it. I have learned that each individual needs to be "on his/her own" to try it all out; to be responsible for oneself totally.

I slept in until 8 AM which gave an hour before I had to head out to liturgy with my small RC faith community. We have a full circle this morning. We have been having trouble with one of our visitors not being able to control the length of time. We now "hold everyone to 2 minutes" and he seems to be taking it quite well. And we are all being responsible and all "calling time." This is good, as the tension was getting higher and higher. (I will preside next week and we will celebrate the feast of All Saints and All Souls.) Sometimes nothing goes well. We couldn't find a lighter for the candle, one of the ministry visitors found a cigarette lighter. Charlotte led us in song but is a soprano and sang so high we couldn't sing. Jay brought donuts for treats afterwards and folks from the ministry came into our service to get the donuts! That hadn't happened before. I put my banana bread in the freezer for another day! I will make my own bread for liturgy next week.


After I took one of our members out to breakfast and gave her $20 toward bus fare as she is job searching. Very difficult for C as she is in her 50's and this is the first time that she has not had a job for a length of time. C is an accountant for non-profits, not degrees years of experience. C is also a soloist for Messiah (music major) and is really gearing up for the performances.

After I did some chores-food shopping, picking up the cleaning etc. The day became a day of sunshine and warm 50's. I thought "I must take a walk on the shoreline." I feel funny because Dow bikes back and forth to work on the paths and I think, "Will I see him today?" I dread the thought. Even when I shop as Dow could frequent the same stores-"What do you say to one's ex when you meet in a casual setting?" I never saw Joe LaVerdi after my first divorce. He got remarried and he didn't pick up his daughter Lisa. I was hurt by Joe's infidelity, this time my family has pegged me with the role of "bad marriage partner" I will admit to that but so must Dow as it takes two to stay in a toxic relationship for 30 years. My family is not ready to admit that if they will ever be. They do not realize the "Marriage" fitted Dow's needs perfectly, that is why he had no complaints and was so surprised when I said, "I quit, I am burned out" when we were at Walter Reed after Jason's injury.

I headed for the "totem pole" but never got there. I turned on the wrong drive-Irving Park and couldn't make a right. So I must have to go even farther S on Lakeshore. I will try it again. But the days are becoming few that I will want to walk in the sun. I am home the next two weekends then gone till the end of the month each week with a long trip for Thanksgiving. I might have to explore next spring!

I went back to Montrose and headed for the bird sanctuary. The only thing it has been reported that it has become a "meeting place for gays" I can't tell a gay person from a straight but today I was looking twice at the "nice looking guys-dressed up" walking by themselves trying to look nonchalantly at me. They would walk by me and put their heads in the air. Sorta funny. I guess the bird season is about done. Met a birder who said "I didn't see a thing." I met her on my return circuit and she said, "I saw an owl," didn't know what kind. I told her, "Persistence pays off." She said I could go to IBET.org-Illinois birders.

After it was time to make chicken soup-had a chicken carcass used Swanson's bullion, added mushrooms-a few too many, then sliced carrots I love those. I got that started, oh I had to cook the egg noodles first as I now only have one pot. Then I headed out to repot some plants as we are to have frost this week. I also began to plant bulbs-daffodils and hyacinths but was angered that the daffs were molded I wound up throwing about 1/2 away! I have two small junks of flower bed where I can put bulbs. So I will keep going, if weather permits. I also want to force a planter full. I love them in January when things are so cold!