An Encounter of the X-Spouse Kind

Today I needed to go to the local bank where both Dow and I have accounts. It is N of Devon, which I experience as "Dow's neighborhood." Today as I was walking N on Sheridan toward the bank, my intuition began to send "anxiety vibrations." I thought, "Am I going to meet Jason?"

I had to go to the bank, so I prepared myself, if I saw Jason I would say "Hello, Jason" expecting him to .... If I encountered Dow, I would not say a word unless the situation demanded my acknowledgment. Sure enough, I step up to the prep your checks counter and look to my right. Dow is an alcove, back to me, chatting with a bank employee. (In today's mail I received his marked up version of the settlement, I imagine that he is preparing whatever financials are required.) My heart began to pound as Dow was "looking at someone?" I felt it might be Jason.

As I moved up to the teller, I looked over and Dow was sitting alone at the desk. I felt great relief, so I guess my anxiety was more that I might encounter Jason than Dow. My heart would break again if Jason's actually physically rejected acknowledging me. I focused on getting the transaction over as quickly as possible so that I might exit before Dow and not have to greet him. I was successful and was "out the door in a flash."

The settlement is a mess. I do not think that the lawyer is listening to me. My lawyer wrote that Dow only needed $240,000 in insurance. That is $60K unprotected in case of Dow's death the day after the divorce is final. I can't figure out why he would write such a figure. Dow wants me to include his insurance premium in my "income." I meet with the lawyer by phone on Monday. We need to straighten this out. He had presented the settlement to Dow without my reading it. I am PO'd and feeling he is not representing me well at all. He doesn't seem to get it that this IS IT as far as income is for me. I am downwardly mobile as they say these days and 65 1/2 years old. Dow's income will continue to increase and he is only 57 and has 13 years to put money away for retirement.